Monday, May 25, 2009

Intervention: How Do These People Always Have Significant Others?

Is it wrong that every time I watch Intervention, the thing that keeps nagging at me is how these people are ALWAYS in a relationship- and usually with like, the nicest person ever. Sometimes they've been married several times, which is totally mind boggling. Like, how can 8 different people marry someone that messed up?

I wouldn't sign up for that, personally. I have zero patience for such things. At the same time, a part of me sometimes goes "Hey, wait a minute- would I do better with the fellas if I had a glaring issue of some kind?" Maybe I could fake it- like the time my mom tried to draw track marks on my arm for that family reunion to freak out the relatives.

4 comments:

Britni TheVadgeWig said...

Because that "nicest person ever" isn't really being nice. They're enabling the addictive behavior, just like the family is. And that person is actually addicted to the addict, like the addict is addicted to the substance. Their addiction is in trying to help this person, to cleaning up their messes, from caring so much that they hope they will change. There is codependency there. The addict is dependent on the substance and the SO is dependent on the addicts dependency on them. It's a hugely complicated relational and interpersonal thing, and there are definitely reasons behind it. It's really interesting to look into, actually.

Welcome to Chicago, Jillinois said...

Every pot has its lid.

soozey said...

That's a good description Britni, and that was me!

Robyn, I have thought the very same thing. In fact I think that on a daily basis observing couples around me, addicted or not. In small, small towns where no one moves, how does it end up that people pair off? Did they *really* find their "soul mate" in that Highway Offramp town, Population 652?? I think it's desperation, practicality and loneliness and slim pickins. As I get older too I think it's the men that get more desperate. They always find someone like 2 months after a divorce. This is so not on topic but, there ya go.

~sublimealice~ said...

i wonder the same thing! did you see the intervention this week, the new one? with the heroin addict? followed by obsessed---which i was extremely excited about but was disappointed in...
i feel like, as britni said, it's an addictive personality thing. with addictive personalities, it's not that much a stretch to be addicted to being with someone. shit, i know tons of girls who HAVE to be dating someone who don't have addictive personalities.